Making time for what really matters

Tuesday, June 2, 2015


Last night I didn't get much sound sleep to speak of because of a crazy, possessed boy child; who will not be named. Because of said loss of sleep I slept in late and and was a zombie for most of the day. I was really counting on Luke taking a good nap but he was not having it. I think he was going on strike from sleep and I was being dragged into his deranged plan! Poor guy has been teething so to give him some credit he is not usually up all night.

He finally decided it was a losing battle and conked out. I couldn't decide what to do first. Should I put away all the mounting piles of laundry, clean the school room, mop the floors, catch up on some blogging, get an early start on dinner?? Decisions, decisions... I finally decided I better get the school room put together so I wouldn't be overwhelmed tomorrow. As I was about to start I heard a little sweet voice say, "Mommy, will you play a game with me?" It was Ellie, she had actually been asking me all day to play a game with her but I literally could not because Luke was being impossible. I almost said no but I knew the school room and everything else could wait; at least for a little bit and she really is so much fun to play with.

I don't always say yes because sometimes I just can't; especially when everyone and everything is constantly in need of my attention and care. Many times in the day I can't even distinguish what each individual child is asking me because they are all asking at once. When this happens I admit that I often yell at everyone to be quiet because I can't even think let alone hear anyone. Though I fail daily I really want to give them the individual attention that they need and crave as much as possible, even if that means taking one of them food shopping with me alone.

I try to take them each on a special date when I can. I love that they want to spend time with me. Seeing their faces light up when we go out together is priceless. Some of them are very quiet and some of them can't contain all they want to tell me, when they have me all to themselves. I don't take for granted that my big boys are not embarrassed to still hold my hand when we are out in public. So sweet!

When I am home and busy with school, housework and a psycho but irresistible toddler it can be hard for me to stop what I am doing and play with my kids. But while they are asking I want to say yes as much as reasonably can. The days will come when they won't be asking me to play uno, house, legos and go fish and I know I will be so happy I said yes to making memories with them that will last far beyond a clean house.

I hope when they look back on their childhood they will have fond memories, not of having a perfect mom or living in a perfectly clean house but of  an imperfect mother who failed many times but by the grace of God admitted when she was wrong and got down on her knees to their level and played Uno when she could.

Here are some games that we enjoy playing together:

Guess who- where to buy
Scrabble- where to buy
Cranium- where to buy
Uno- where to buy

Is it hard for you to stop what you are doing sometimes and play with your kids?

How do you find ways to spend quality time with your children?


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24 comments:

  1. Amen. I struggle with this so much! "Mom, can we snuggle?" "Sure, honey, just let me finish... " and then I forget to snuggle or they've moved on to something else. Those requests are going to stop at some point and I don't want to be sorry for what I've missed out on. Thanks for the encouraging reminder, Rebekah! :-)

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    1. I know! It can be so easy to miss out on those precious moments when we have so many things calling our name.

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  3. Sometimes it is so so hard to stop and just play. When I do though, I always feel so much better no matter whether I got the to-do tasks completed or not! I enjoy the moments I get to spend just Being with Baby Boy. Afterall, they are what make motherhood so worth it :)

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    1. So true! It is so hard but I never regret when I choose to put them first! Thanks for stopping by!

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  4. You made the right choice! The memories I have from my kid's younger years aren't of the countless times I washed dishes or did laundry, but of time spent reading a book or playing games or just enjoying a porch swing together. I still have to make these choices now, even though all of my children are grown and in college or beyond. It's still just as important. You did the right thing that day, and the pictures are so SO cute!
    Spotted you over on Mama Moments today!

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    1. Aww...thanks so much!
      Its always good for me to these truths from moms who have been where I am!

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  5. This is so me! I have so many moments when the to do list is mounting and everyone is calling my name, I mean, is it possible to hate my name??? ;) It can be overwhelming, but taking the time to stop when you can is so important and I think sometimes we miss out on these little moments in time, these memories that could pass us by if we don't pay attention. Thanks for the reminder and great read (as always) and linking up at Favorite things Friday! Every time I see your posts on there I'm excited to see what you have been up to this week. Hope to see you again this week!

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    1. I feel ya! I always look forward to yur thoughtful comments though I don't know how you manage to;)

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  6. This is so great! (As I sit at my computer trying to catch up on work while my kids are outside playing without me. Sigh...) Yep, tomorrow my energy will be spent focused on them! Thanks for the reminder and great read! (And for linking up to 'Favorite Things Friday' with Simply Rachel & Hip Homeschooling!)

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    1. I understand! Sometimes we can't always say yes but at least we can designate time to give them our attention when we can.

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  7. Great reminder . . . the organizing, cleaning, etc. really can wait, but the opportunity to enjoy the kids is fleeting. Hard for me to make that choice often too, but definitely worth making and repeating and being reminded of. True that the answer has to be 'no' sometimes; sometimes I can incorporate them into what does have to be done, and they LOVE that! I'm working on stretching my concept of what they can participate in! Visiting from Thriving Thursday.

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    1. Yes, it can be hard and my kids also love to help do housework with me(some of the time;) Thanks for stopping by!

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  8. I'm with you, Rebekah! I just keep returning to one of my favorite quotes: "there is an art of leaving things undone so that the greater thing can be done" (Jill Briscoe). Blessings to you as you wisely figure out what to leave undone and what the greater thing is to be done!

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    1. I LOVE that quote!! I need to get it framed! Thanks so much for stopping by:)

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  9. This is such a sweet reminder. My hubby and I don't have kiddos yet, but I feel like this can apply to time with him and with the people we love as well. Sometimes those "interruptions" are what add up to the most meaningful parts of our day, and I agree with you - I'd hate to miss them! Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Your right! There will always be something to distract us from spending quality time with the ones we love. Thanks for stopping by:)

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  10. It can be hard to find time and give that individual attention. This is a wonderful reminder that the other stuff really isn't as important as our little ones :-)

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    1. Yes, I have found I really have to be intentional. They are my most important work!

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  11. I love the heart behind this post! Thank you so much for sharing - so glad I've discovered your space!

    Elizabeth
    allkindsofthingsblog.com
    Co-host of "Tuesday Talk"

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  12. I am so excited you were able to "visit";) !

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  13. My husband and I divide it up by preference. He far prefers games and reading books with them, so he does that. I'd rather play in the park or ride bikes together, so I do that. The kids have learned which of us to ask, and we are all happy that way! :)

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    1. That is great that you found what works for you and your family!

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  14. This was a great reminder for me!! Thanks for sharing at Tuesday Talk. I will be featuring your post tomorrow. :)

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