There is a view in our society that is catching fire.
It is a view that sees homemaking/housework/motherhood as drudgery. (Drudgery: boring, difficult or unpleasant work. )
I should know because I often add my approval and voice to this view.
Before I was married I dreamed about the day when I would have a husband and children to do laundry, make meals for and a home to decorate and clean.
Little did I know how those dreams would come back to haunt me!
Not only do I have all of these, but they are neverending!
I do about 2-3 loads of laundry every day!
I cook 2-3 meals a day and clean in between... constantly.
I clean and clean and clean and my house does not look magazine worthy; just liveable!
Now that all my dreams have come true I complain most every day about them.
Why can't I go 20 minutes without cleaning up a mess?
Why do my children hurt themselves every 10 seconds!?
Why do we have so many dirty clothes???
Why do my children destroy everything they touch!!?
I definately go through seasons of absolutely loving caring for my home and family and then seasons of despising it. I will often do anything I can to avoid doing dishes or making dinner and other times I just thrive in it. I have times when I will be on top of everything and everyone making sure not a crumb is spilled and a toy out of place. I can get a little OCD at times. Though I love a clean house, I know it's not worth getting all bent out of shape about, even though I often do.
Then there are seasons when I get disillusioned and just try to get by with what I can, wondering to myself, "Why even try, it's just going to go back to the way it was?" When I get in a funk of thinking what is the purpose of it all, I start to view homemaking as drudgery. I get bogged down with thoughts that I am really not doing anything important or of worth. I start to think of my days as insignificant as a stay at home mom, if all I did was clean, cook, do laundry and supervise my children. Nothing spectacular there. I give into the lies that I didn't really accomplish anything of worth.
Deep down in my heart I know that this is so not true.
Even if I all you and I did was feed our children, clean and keep the peace, we have done an amazing job that is vital to our family's well being...that only you and I can do as our husband's wife and our children's mother.
The thing is that I need God to constantly work on my heart and help change my perspective to see the job I have been given as one of great value and worth. I need him to give me a cheerful and giving heart in serving my family; desiring to do it as unto him. This is the difference... doing it as unto him!
When we are reminded that our lives and our families are not our own, that he has given us this wonderful and most important of positions; our perspective changes and we can see homemaking as a labor of love instead of drudgery.
I love this quote by Harold B. Lee. It really helps to remind me that I am doing a very important work. A work that no one else besides God and my family might see. A work that is vital not only to the foundation of my family but of the whole of society.
I love my family so much! Even though I desperately need time away from them sometimes, I still always can't wait to get back to them. They are the ones that I truly want to be with the most. Yes, they are a lot of work but I would so much rather take care of them then be out in the world taking care of someone else's children or doing a job that would take me away from my husband and them.
It's sad that we often think that it's only when we are serving outside the home that we are being used and doing an important work. I know that everyone is in different seasons and situations then I am in, but whatever our jobs are... as mothers, our families should be our priority as we seek God 1st. #preachingtomyself If you are doing a job outside the home, know that I am not trying to downplay that. If you are in God's will then there is no better place to be. But if God has called you to be home then he will make a way and give you joy in it!
When I start to listen to God's voice instead of the world's and thrive where he has put me, I delight in serving my family. As I am obedient to his calling on my life and cherish the season I am in, I start to see keeping the house liveable, clothes cleaned, dishes washed, children trained and loved, husband admired and respected as my highest calling. Not only does it become fulfilling, but it affects everyone in my family. When all I do is complain to my husband and children they will start to feel insignificant, like they aren't worth my time and effort.
We as mothers and wives need to set the example in our home. How can we expect our husband to want to come home if all he will hear from us is complaining? How can we expect our children to do their chores without complaining if that is all they hear us do?
Of course there are those days when we have just had a hard time putting anything on the table and keeping the house looking decent and we need to vent and give ourselves grace, and that's okay.
I don't know about you but I am tired of being tired of housework. I want God to change my heart. I want him to give me joy in being faithful with the little. I know that this will be a continuous work and that I will go through many different seasons, but this is my prayer: to see homemaking as a labor of love to the ones that I cherish the most.
I am so excited to share this beautiful printable that I made with you! Please download it for your own personal use! ----> FREE PRINT And if this post encouraged you I would love for you to sign up to recieve more posts like it --->Here!!
How about you? Do you struggle with taking care of your home and family with joy?
Do you often feel like you didn't do anything of worth during the day?
Do you find yourself having a bad attitude towards homemaking?
Do you feel like you are only doing something of value when it's outside your home?
Linking up here!